We can go only so far

There is no such thing as complete acceptance.

When you can remember a loss with a little distance and much less pain, you have accepted the loss and mourned it fully. You accept that life is different now and move on.— David Viscott, Emotionally FreeThere are certain events that we may never accept fully. What can be accepted, though, is that we are required to live with these losses and find a way to go on.Some people were horribly abused in childhood, beyond what anyone can be expected to endure. Some of us have experienced unthinkable losses later on in life. A spouse may have betrayed us. We may have lost our family through divorce. We may have lost our physical health through an accident or illness. A loved one may have died.It’s okay to stop waiting for and expecting total acceptance of the unthinkable in your life. Instead, gently do one thing each day to demonstrate that you’re willing to move forward with your life.God, grant me compassion for myself and others. Help me learn to be gentle with broken hearts, including my own.Activity: Make a list of all the questions you have for God, the “why’s.” For instance, why did so-and-so have to die, why did I have to lose my family, why did this have to happen to me? Then, as much as possible, do not dwell on those questions. Trust you’ll get your answers possibly later, possibly when you can talk to your Higher Power face-to-face.

For now, let those questions be the unsolved mysteries of life.

From the book: More Language of Letting Go